Let’s be honest: most people never even ask for what they want.
They just go through life waiting for permission. Numbing out. Telling themselves it’s not the right time or that dreaming big is for someone else.

You don’t need another productivity app. You need to wake the hell up to your own life—and start asking better questions.

These 11 questions? They’re not fluffy journal prompts. They’re a personal fire alarm. A call to stop sleepwalking through your days and start choosing with intention.
Get still. Get honest. And don’t you dare try to be polite about the answers.

1. What actually matters most to you—not what you’ve been told should matter?

Until you answer this, everything else is just noise.
What do you really want to experience, create, or become in this lifetime? If you don’t know, you’re running someone else’s program—and it’s probably glitchy.

2. Is this your dream—or one that looks good on LinkedIn?

Are you chasing the corner office, the house, the six-figure thing because you want it—or because someone once implied you should?

The worst kind of failure is succeeding at something you never actually wanted.

3. Do you want this badly enough to show up for it every damn day?

Be real: is this something you’re obsessed with or something that just sounds nice?
Because dreams don’t thrive on “meh.” They need fuel. Obsession. Pull-you-out-of-bed clarity.

4. Where are you still settling?

Look at your life.
Where have you accepted “just okay”? Where have you convinced yourself it’s too late or too risky? That’s the exact spot your dream is buried.

 5. Is the thing you want actually just a stand-in for something deeper?

Spoiler: it’s not the money, the title, the perfect kitchen.
It’s what you think it will give you—freedom, joy, self-respect, being seen.
Get clear on the feeling you’re really after… then ask if there’s a faster way to live it.

6. What would it feel like to already be living your dream?

Get specific. Not just vague happiness.
What are your mornings like? Who do you spend your time with? What’s your energy like when you walk into a room? This isn’t visualization—it’s emotional calibration. And it matters.

7. What are the actual benefits of living your dream—and are you allowing yourself to want them?

Dreams aren’t selfish. They’re catalytic.
Write down exactly what gets better when you stop playing small—your health, your relationships, your energy, your bank account. Let yourself want it unapologetically.

8. What’s one thing you could do today that brings your dream closer?

You don’t need a five-year plan. You need a first step.
Small moves compound.
Email someone. Start a rough draft. Book the workshop. Say the scary thing out loud. Start the chain reaction.

9. Are you telling yourself you can’t have it?

Whose voice is that in your head?
What outdated belief says you can’t earn money doing what you love, or live in a place that energizes you, or have a relationship that doesn’t drain you?
Unpack it. Burn it. Rewrite it.

10. Are you secretly scared of getting what you want?

Because if you were truly free, loved, and powerful… then what?
You’d have no more excuses. And that level of responsibility? Terrifying.
But it’s also the most alive you’ll ever feel.

11. Do you need the dream to come true… or are you already enough?

Read that again.
Sometimes letting go of the need is what finally unblocks the path.
You don’t need to hustle your way into worthiness. You’re already whole. The dream? It’s just an extension of your wholeness—not proof of it.

Final Word: You’re Already on the Edge. Now Jump.

Here’s what no one tells you:
You don’t need to “earn” a dream life. You just need to stop outsourcing your power and start living like you mean it.

These questions won’t solve everything. But they will snap you out of autopilot and bring you face-to-face with the real you—the one who’s been ready this whole time.

You don’t need more time.

You need to decide.

And once you do? There’s no version of your life that stays the same.