Let’s be honest—most of what you’ve been taught about success is outdated, narrow, or just plain wrong.

We’re told it’s about money. Titles. Houses. Hustle.
But if that’s all it takes, why are so many high-achievers burned out, disconnected, and quietly miserable?

Here’s the truth:

Success is personal. It’s contextual. And it’s yours to define—or you’ll default to chasing someone else’s version.

Let’s fix that.

Success Might Be…

Having full control over your time
Feeling proud of the way you parent
Solving complex problems that stretch your brain
Traveling to 20 countries before 40
Living debt-free
Leading a team that thrives without you
Creating art that moves people
Helping your community
Laughing more days than not

There’s no wrong answer—only honest ones.
But the cost of not defining your version? Years chasing goals that don’t fulfill you.

Here’s How to Create Your Definition of Success:

1. Ask: What’s Actually Non-Negotiable to Me?

• Is it time freedom?
• Emotional peace?
• High-impact work?
• Raising incredible humans?
• Spiritual alignment?
  Write it down. If it doesn’t light something up inside you—it doesn’t make the cut.

2. Zoom Forward: What Life Do You Want to Look Back On?

Picture yourself at 85. You’ve lived your version of a damn good life.
What do you see?

• Who’s around you?
• What did you build?
• What did you protect?
• What did you let go of?
  Reverse-engineer that life.

3. Audit the Lies You’ve Inherited

Many of us unconsciously absorb someone else’s success blueprint:

• Your dad’s obsession with security
• Your boss’s definition of “making it”
• The influencer’s highlight reel

Let that go. You’re not obligated to chase what doesn’t align.

4. Name Your Metrics (Then Own Them Out Loud)

Maybe your definition of success is:

• Earning $200K and being done by 3pm every day
• Writing one honest book before you die
• Making your marriage feel like a safe harbor, not a project
• Helping 1,000 people reclaim their voice

Whatever it is—be unapologetic.
Your goals don’t need to look impressive to be deeply meaningful.

5. Build the Life That Matches the Vision

Now comes the brave part: building around your values, not your vanity.
That might mean making trade-offs. Saying no to shiny things. Letting go of old stories.

But it also means:

• Alignment
• Energy
• Peace
• And a life that feels like yours

Final Reminder:

You can borrow someone else’s shoes, but you’ll never run your fastest race in them.

Define success on your terms.
Live it in real time—not someday.
And make damn sure that when you look back, you’re proud of how you defined the win.